Thursday, December 21, 2006

Blood Test? A Little Embarasing

Marge and I have nearly completed our ABWE application and have been informally told that we should plan on attending the candidate seminar in February. The application is nothing if not thorough.

One of the "deliverables" is a Dr.s report. I had a full annual physical last September so I thought, "Hey, no sweet." I sent the form to my Dr. and was told that there were several tests that I had never had. One of them was a blood test for HIV. Never needed one of those. Another was a test that I haven't had since I was a child: Tuberculosis test. Also needed to get a baseline chest X-Ray, and some other samples that don't really need to be printed here (I think you can guesse).

The HIV test is a little embarasing. I've heard preachers refer to AIDS as the modern day Leprosy. I would agree that there is some truth to that. In many places in the world, individuals with AIDS are shunned by the family and community. It happens in the United States, but in parts of the Third World, AIDS victims are shunned to a degree to which we can not imagine.

I kept having the urge to

Ooops, I got to go. I'll finish this later

Thursday, October 12, 2006

Assessment Conference - Day Four


Day four was quite brief. Curt Hanson gave a brief devotional to encourage us, we gathered for a group photo, and then each couple had a final interview in which the assessors gave us a printed summary of our their recommendations. It contained a summary of what they believed to be our strengths and areas for growth.


We hit the road and sailed straight home. My brilliant plan was to take I-94 all the way back. The first surprise was that I-94 literally detoured through Milwaukee and then onto Milwaukee's Lake Shore Drive. You could tell that the road crew had pieced together on ramps, off ramps, and laid new asphalt to shunt the highway into Milwaukee. It was something like a rollercoaster ride.


Note to self: Avoid I-94 in the Milwaukee area for about the next year. Major highway reconstruction.


We got stuck in a little bit of rush hour, but once on the highway were up and sailing again.


I'll say it again, it was a pivotal event in our life and we are still digesting what we learned about missions and discovered about ourselves. It has confirmed to us that God has called us to missions. We are taking additional steps to thoroughly consider that assignment that they suggested to us, and as soon as we think we are close to a decision I'll be completely clear about what it is.


Adam

Wednesday, October 11, 2006

Assessment Conference - Day Three

Day three of the MAC was the shortest.

From 9 to noon we continued to work on our missions strategy. Several of us had hunted for more information on the internet, and found some helpful things.

The Wolof in Senegal are a chiefly Muslim people group that live primarily in remote villages, but also are present in major cities. It was discovered that while they practice the five pillars of Islam, they have mixed in a healthy dose of animism. They have daily habits and rituals intended to ward of evil spirits. It was noted that if a Wolof adult turns to Christianity, they are not only alienated from their family, but may be beaten or killed, and will likely have their children taken from them. Often Wolofs who are newly converted to Christ, escape to the city which tends to be less culturally restrictive. It was also discovered that the literacy rate among the Wolof people is only about 27% and that only about 30% of the Wolofs have access to clean water.As part of our simulated missionary team we decided that as a simple act of mercy and a cultural bridge to the Wolof people we would work on a water project and literacy as well as teaching the Bible chronologically starting in Genesis.during all of our planning couples were pulled out for two one hour interviews: A missions interview and a psychological interview. This disrupted the planning process, but as Curt Hansen mentioned there are regular disruptions on the missions field as couples return to the states or other needs arise.

By 2:30 our missions simulation team was ready with several PowerPoint presentations (including a slide show of the Wolof people), and presentations from our team. I thought the point was to see how realistic and reasonable of a plan we could develop. That wasn't really the main point. Curt got up and pointed said, "Yesterday, you didn't even know who the Wolof people were. Do you see how much can be accomplished in just a short time by a team?" It was quite remarkable. It had also given us a sense for the amount of little things that need to be planned.

Things if missed will become road blocks or show stoppers for a mission team.Here are some things that stood out to me:


Understand the impact of your work on the indigenous culture. A Wolof could be persecuted or killed for turning to Christianity. What should a missionary do to prepare for such an event? Do you just charge in full speed and if people are killed or displaced, Oh well? Or is there another way? One suggestion was to first set up a support system in the city, so that if needed a Wolof could find refuge there. The other suggestion was that by building bridges first through a water project and literacy training, the misisonaries would be able to gain some trust and acceptance. However, all that said, there may always be the risk of dangerous consequences for Wolof people who accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. They need to know that so that they can make their decision with their eyes open.

Americans are viewed with suspicion. Individuals from Arab, Asian and even Latin American countries are more easily able to integrate into Muslim dominated countries. Americans feeling called to such countries need to enter in a creative way or partner with others who will have an easier time entering.

I also saw how a team of focused, committed people will tend to drift into complimentary strength areas. When the focus is placed on the goal on not on whose in charge or who has control.

The Missions Interview was conducted by Curt Hansen along with Steve and Kay Abelman. Steve and Kay spent many years in church planting in the Philippines. They asked probing questions about our call, our health, any concerns about our children and our children's needs. It was quite practical. At the end of it, they made some suggestions for a possible field of service and approach to missions life.

What they suggested was along the following lines:Because of our age, health concerns and lack of cross cultural experience, we would be well served to first commit to a short term assignment that would allow us to minister in English and have access to support systems that we may need (i.e. medical, educational, etc.).Steve suggested that we consider serving at the mission's guest house in the Philippines. It's in a major metropolitan area which would have more medical and educational resources. Also we would be able to start out right away in English. We could make a one or two year commitment, get our feet wet and then go from there. We would run the guest house, and would also have opportunity to teach at the Bible school.That was the third person who suggested something like being a house parent or running a guest house. Another mission agency rep. suggested much the same thing. It was not what I was expecting, but I listened carefully just the same.

The psychological interview was revealing, but not shocking. No skeletons in our closet, but there are areas that the pressures of living in an unfamiliar culture could exacerbate. We both have parts of our selves to strengthen.

After the day came to a close we both felt a little emotional and tired, so after a nap we went to dinner. We discovered a little place called 318 The Mill. It was a little coffee house that just so happened to be featuring a jazz combo. It was a great change of pace.

Adam

Tuesday, October 10, 2006

Assessment Conference - Day Two

I don't imagine for a second that I can provide a complete or knowledgable summary of the day. Hopefully I can give you an indication of what we did with our time. Today's session generated much food for continued thought and consideration. This week of study and assessment is clearly a starting point as well as a point of clarification.

Today was the long day. We started at 8:30 am and won’t wrap up until about 8:30 pm. I’m really coming to enjoy the assessors. The presenters possess a wealth of insight born out of years of success and failure in a non-American culture.

One of our first activities of the day was to review an assessment tool that indicates how each of us prefers to work in groups. Marge and I both tested as fairly colaborative. This is neither good nor bad, it just is. Knowing our natural style will help us when we are in a team setting, and will help us understand when we need to adopt a different style (as best we can).The largest chunk of the morning focused on the impact of culture.

Our job as missionaries is to take the truth of the Bible into the culture and communicate it in a culturally relevant way. The presenter/assessors referred to it as contextualization. Contextualization as a practice has caused some controversy in Evangelical circles, because taken to an extreme it can become syncretism (my opinion maybe more on that later). That said, Jesus always spoke using methods that were deeply embedded in the Jewish culture (makes sense, as to His humanness he was born a Jew). Other Bible writers wrote within their own cultural context. The truth of the Bible, however is supracultural: Above culture.The presenter made a striking comment, “God is beyond culture, God’s truth is beyond culture, we are not.”

He also read a story from a book called “Anthropological Insights for Missionaries”. In summary the story recounted a man in a tribe that practiced polygamy. The Christian church in the area condemned polygamy as a sin. The tribal man had two wives and third wife he had taken in when his brother died. The man claimed to be a Christian, and had several thought provoking things to say. One, he said, “My pastor prays that I will give up polygamy so I can become a church member [which would mean divorce for two of his wives], my wives pray that I will never become a church member.” The other comment was this, “The Bible condemns divorce, but not polygamy.” In a society in which polygamy is normative, and of practical benefit what do you say to men and women who turn to the Christian faith? Divorce all but one of your wives? Which wife? From scriptural principles how do you counsel this man?

My guess is that you would quote this Bible verse, “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. . .” That indicates that a husband has a sacrificial love for His wife, caring for her and giving himself for her nurturing and growth as a person and (hopefully) Christian believer. How could a man serve his wife if he divorces her, and sends her away?Weird, huh?Missions Reality Check, was about counting the cost, before committing to the field. Realistically taking stock of the demands of life in an unfamiliar culture. Scripture says to “count the cost.”What are some of the difficulties?Food: In some cases refusing certain foods causes deep offense, and cause the missionary heart burn.

ClimatePersonal and Physical DangerDisease and SicknessLack of emergency services (no ambulance, not necessarily the same level of skilled care)Raising children on the field and how the culture reacts to themDistance from extended familySense of isolation because of a unfamiliar cultureIn some cases isolated from other ChristiansFrustrations of learning another cultures psychology, sensibility and modes of communicationPolitical unrestObserving the locals that have embraced Christianity being persecuted for their new found Christian faith.A missionary’s actions or intentions being misunderstoodHe closed with a discussion of II Corinthians 1:8-10 which spoke of being pressed beyond what we can handle, but God providing the grace for us to over come challenges. There is that balance between practical assessment and an act of faith.Just before dinner we did a conflict mode analysis tool that is designed to reveal how each of us deals with conflict.

After dinner, we began a missions strategy simulation. We were given the task of going as a missions team to the Wolof tribe in Senegal. In fact, before I go to bed I need to do some research. It was a blessing to have in our group individuals who had already spent time on the missions field and specifically with remote tribes.The missions strategy simulation will take most of the day tomorrow. We will actually finish it by presenting a PowerPoint of our strategy and plan. During that time as we are all working together as a team, periodically couples are called out for assessment sessions with one of the psychologists, and a BGC mission assessor. This breaks the continuity of the team, but also simulates the fluidity of field work itself.

That’s a quick summary.

I’m sure after this is all done I’ll be writing about this for a while.

Adam

Monday, October 9, 2006

Assessment Conference - Day One

It is a little after 10 pm.

We are sharing the MAC (Missionary Assessment Center) event with four other couples. Each couple was asked to name five adjectives for their spouse. In each case the wives used the word passionate as one of the adjectives for their husbands. I'm certainly guilty of that. The first day started at noon and concluded after dinner together at about 6:30pm.

It was mostly a get acquainted in the sense that each couple took 30 min. to describe their testimony, their call to missions, and to answer questions. It was a powerful and touching time. We also got to know the assessors. They all seem knowledgeable, friendly, and eager to provide us with useful information.

A touching moment was when one of the individuals described having to hide under the bed to pray and secretly read the Bible so that the mom and dad would not know. This person had an unquenchable desire for God, and as a child risked punishment to seek Him.

Tonight we filled out another personality profile that we will review as a groutomorrowow. The other test instruments will be reviewed and discussed with each couples privately with an assessor. One of the psychologists discussed why she believes the psychological testing is of God and an important part of the path to missions. She quoted the scripture about how a man building a tower counts the cost before he lays the foundation in order that he be able to complete the project. She said, a full awareness may help rule out some area of missions, but more importantly point to where the mission candidate will be able to best serve. She also noted that there is ainordinatelyly high number of missionaries that leave the field due to a variety of stressors.

I remember a couple weeks ago when Marge and I had dinner with Don Trott from ABWE, he said that their work (the mission staff) is to help us determine the placement that will allow us to best and most fully achieve God's glory and purpose. I think that is what is happening here. I look forward to continued assessment and discovery.The conversations during break and dinner have been just as rewarding as the sessions. Had dinner with some veteran missionaries who know work with churches on their missions programs. Also enjoyed conversation with the other candidates. Three of the couples brought their babies with them. The babies are a pleasant distraction. Some of the candidates had already been in the field. Several were born and raised on the mission field. One candidate was a poor child growing up in a Latin American country and is now working to spread the Gospel and alleviate poverty. Over and over the point was made that poorly trained missionaries who don't understand the culture can do more harm than good. They stressed the importance of listening and discovering the context and discovering what the local believers or culture wants. Missionaries need to live out the question, "How can I help?" If the indigenous church exists in an area we need to support and equip them in the work of reaching their own people.

After the session Marge and I went back to our room and read a little bit. Marge leaned back against the head board of the bed as she was reading and it fell off of the wall. The hotel manager kindly moved us to a better room. We watched a DVD on my laptop and now we are settling in for a restful night's sleep.

When we first started getting prepared for this event, we thought that through it we were going to make a final go or no-go decision on missions. That is not the case. We have already made the go decision. Now we are hoping that God will give us a little more clarity on a people group and the work that he would have us do.

More tomorow.

Adam

Sunday, October 8, 2006

BGC Assessment Conference

Marge and I have been thinking through and process what we believe to be God’s call on our lives for missions since April. You’d think that there wouldn’t be that much work to do in order to make such a decision. I’ve been known to say, “Is you is or is you aint?” Nike says “Just do it”.

So what does it take to make such a decision, and is that decision characterized by a yes or no?There isn’t a simple yes or no. It’s not like flipping on a light switch or signing on the dotted line, but a series of decisions, an extended time of assessing me, my life, and my relationship with God. So as part of that my wife and I registered to attend an event hosted by the Baptist General conference (BGC). The event is called the Missionary Assessment Center. From the schedule on the BGC website, it looks like there are several of these each year hosted by BGC churches in a variety of areas.

The registration form…… it was more like a registration process (ordeal?) was as rigorous as if we were applying to be BGC missionaries. In order to register for the event there was a three part application. The first part was a 10 page General information form covering everything from job and school history, family history (including what they do), health, giftedness, doctrinal beliefs, etc. The second part was two write a two page testimony of your Christian faith, and the third section was a set of confidential question about everything “Do you have a criminal record” to “where you sexually active before marriage”.

After the registration packet we had to provide about 15 references. Our references where asked thorough questions about our character and faith. Finally we completed three professional personality and marriage tests that will be assessed by a professional counselor.Marge looked at me this morning and said, “These people already know a lot about us.” I think that there are about eight people attending this (don’t know for sure), and then a BGC staff and contracted professionals who make up a team of “assessors”. That is truly one aspect of this event: To give us an unbiased, undiluted assessment of our readiness and giftedness for the life of a foreign missionary. I’m hoping and expecting that they will ask a lot of hard questions, and be quite forthright about the areas in which Marge and I will struggle. Moving to a culture foreign to my own will create stress, regardless of how much I may love it or love what I do there. Working in ministry in a third world country also creates stress. What am I saying; being in ministry in the U.S. is stressful. Pastors and church leaders get bashed around all of the time, and that’s by their own church members.So, it seems to me that “Forewarned is forearmed”, and hopefully we will be given some wise counsel on how to best prepare and guard ourselves.

So, Marge spent several weeks arranging for the children’s care in our absence. She arranged for a woman from church to come stay with us and provided her with very detailed information. I charted out our route to get there and made sure that Marge got all the info on the hotel, etc.

We said goodbye to the children after the morning service at Bethel and sent them off to Sunday school. It was actually easier for them to say goodbye at church than at home. The morning service was a rich send off. The music seemed to be moving and subtle and drew me toward a sense of worship even though I was playing drums. I especially enjoyed it since Michael has taken up the percussion (conga, tambourine, shaker) while I holding down the drums. It’s been an opportunity for me to teach and learn as Michael has a growing musical ability that compliments mine. There was a song called Grace Flows Down that sounds like a touching jazz ballad to me. It’s very smooth, and the lyrics are such that it would be easy for the percussion to prove distracting. Michael held down the percussion with the conga, and I abandoned the drums in favor of shaker and light decoration with the tambourine. It add to the soothing qualities of the song in a way a smooth jazz song can help you unwind. The lyrics took that soothing quality and steered it toward the comfort of God’s grace flowing down to us. I feel privileged to be part of music in church that way.

After a challenging message from Moises Gomes (missionary in Portugal), Marge and I said our goodbyes, gave a friend a ride home (it was on our way), and hit the highway. That first turn on to the highway was the hardest part. Driving on to the highway felt like hitting the point of no return. It wasn’t really, but it felt like it.

Other than getting stuck in traffic near Chicago, we sailed along enjoying each others company. We talked our hearts out, and it was really good. I can’t even remember everything we spoke about, but it is just so good to spend time with my wife, and talk through . . . . everything.

We made it all the way to St. Paul in one shot, enjoyed a swim and had a great night’s sleep.This morning I got up early and worked out, we enjoyed a leisurely breakfast and time to read, and think in our room.

We’re about to head for lunch and then on to a noon start for the MAC. I’m nervous about it. I’ll let you all know how it turns out.

Adam

Monday, September 11, 2006

Where Is The Music?

I never had any idea how much of an adjustment it would be not to be with the guys each week, but it's a big change.

The open practice night is already going to fill in with Spanish lessons come late October or early November. Also, as my wife and I investigate where God wants us in missions, we are starting a small group study in our home called Missions Minded. It's for people who have a passions or interest in missions. It will meet two Fridays per month.So missions preparation and personal growth have jumped into the gap.

It's the right thing to do, but there is no replacement for Sojourn. There isn't any equivalent thing or activity that I can do that is what Sojourn is (or was). My wife used to tell me that change, even positive change, involves an element of loss. She always said that in order to have one thing you have to forgo something else, and that you should take the time to "morn the loss".

So, I'm in this searching out and learning phase of my trip toward the mission field. It's fairly ill defined, and involves more reading and thinking than anything else. I suppose the other thing that is happening is the process of letting go of Sojourn, a 14 year companion.

Hope that doesn't sound overly dramatic.

Adam

Wednesday, August 30, 2006

In The Moment

In The Momentby
Adam Parmenter

Time races so fast
My hope laid on somedays
My eyes fixed on the past
The present, I ignore
Dreading moments gone
Craving something more
So, I've missed the moment
I've missed the moment
A momentTo breath in fresh spring air
Enjoy
The glory of God's creation there
Find
Pleasure in my daughter and son
Play
Games or just laugh and run
Enjoy
The sweet sunlight while it lasts
Without
My feet in the future
My head in the past

Monday, August 28, 2006

The Last Hoorah?

I rolled into the parking lot at the Kent County Fair grounds at about 8:45 am (ugh) right as Steve Reid was pulling into the lot. Steve Reid is something of a local Christian music promoter and the expert on the Southwest Michigan Christian music scene. Steve has been a good friend of Tim Hamm (Sojourn bass player) and of all of us in the band.My son Michael and I were gathering a few things out of the trunk of my car, and Steve said, "So, this is the last hoorah?"I stopped for a second and said, "Huh?". . . . "Oh! yah. I suppose it is.

I'm sure the band will do something again in the future. I said that too several people. It could take a year or two for us to get to the field, I reasoned, certainly Sojourn will get back together for something.The rest of the band didn't talk that way.

I don't know how I feel about that. I don't doubt my decisions, but it feels so strange to think that Sojourn would ever end. I am experiencing this mixture of hope and sadness. Oh yes, and fear. Am I crazy? What guarantee do I have of success? How do I know that my case of fibromyalgia won't flair up and incapacitate me as it did my oldest brother? What if my children don't adapt well to the mission field? What if? What if?I have no guarantee of success. I must be an idiot. I'm nearly 42 years old. I'm supposed to be settling in, not uprooting and changing course!

I have no guarantee of success. Accept that God has a different definition of success than I do. God see with an eternal perspective. So, during the 1700s, when a group of missionaries followed God's call, but some died of local disease within months of arriving where success or failures. How about the family that returned from the mission field after only two years because their baby had an illness?God does not judge success or failure on the same outcomes as I do. He looks for a willing heart, an obedient servant, and His perspective is eternal. In view of eternity things must look different.

Back here on earth, I'm struggling to come to terms that my obedience pleases Him. My struggle to know and enjoy Him pleases Him. If sending us off to a foreign field so that we can "fail" and return is a means by which He tests and displays our obedience and willingness to follow, then that is what will please Him most.

I think I got that one right, but it doesn't make sense to me yet.

Here's what I do know for sure. It's something that the Pastor at my church has been teaching me. God is more concerned about the process than the outcome. God is pleased when I struggle to be like Him, to please Him, to know Him, to enjoy Him. That the outcome of my efforts is noticeably flawed or mistakes are made is the definition of being a human who is not in heaven yet. So as my family makes the effort to pray together about missions and take steps of faith it will be the process of seeking God with which the Lord is pleased, not if I goof up the outcome or not.

Sounds crazy maybe.

Adam

Monday, August 21, 2006

How could I ever give up Sojourn? - From Adam

Some of my deepest thoughts and highest aspirations have crept out of my inner mind and into Sojourn lyrics with the help of the guys in the band. For nearly 15 years we have enjoyed music, laughed, traveled, and shared an important ministry. Like really true friends we have irritated, supported, confronted, and stayed faithful through good and bad.

Sojourn was born before all but one of our children. So, for our families, Sojourn has been the soundtrack of our marriages. It has been a consistent privilege and at times burden through changing times, jobs, health and finances.

So, how could I leave something this good? Is it because I am pursuing something so much better? No. I've fought the call to go for many years. It has been a good fight as God has refined me, matured me, and given me a closer walk with Him. Sojourn is both a ministry and a tool that God used to help me grow up in Christ.

I believe that God is now taking all those words and ideas that I hold to be true and asking me to live them out in a new arena. Am I willing to give up everything, even Sojourn in order to dive into a largely uncertain future? Am I willing to give up an excellent job and risk failure in ministry? Do I trust God to do something new?You see, in my growing relationship with Christ, I see the next level for me is to learn to rest on faith in God, and follow this calling. I believe God is calling me and my family to the mission field to teach men, women, and children the Word of God, and (more importantly) to teach them how to teach the Word of God others. To do this involves walking away from some very good things, and some wonderfully rich relationships.

Yet, my family and I are compelled to follow this new path.

I am grateful for the opportunity to follow God into the mission field regardless of where it will be (don't know yet), and I am so very grateful that God let me be in Sojourn.

Dean Newell (guitar/vocals) is a life long friend, example, and in many ways, a spiritual mentor. I am grateful for his example and for being the voice of reason in Sojourn and often in my life.Tim Hamm (bass) has been my friend for 14+ years.

Tim is my reality check. He doesn't mince words, but deals it straight. I admire that. I may be the "front man" and a co-founder of the band, but Tim has become the leader, and under his leadership Sojourn's level of quality and artistry has flourished. I also appreciate Tim's leadership in the local Christian music scene. I know that he is a blessing to other local Christian musicians.

John Chapman (drums)is the newest guy in Sojourn, but has become a close friend and inspiration. He has a simple, uncomplicated faith. His positive outlook helps balance my natural cynicism.

I've enjoyed it.

Thanks guys.

I love you all. Guys aren't supposed to say that and I doubt I'll say it to your face, but once in 15 years it should at least be in print.To all of you that have enjoyed Sojourn over the years, thank you. It's because of you that we had a reason to show up and play our music (sometimes for 1, sometimes for 100).

I'll keep blogging, and keep you posted on what comes next."The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; The Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace." numbers 6:24-26

Adam Parmenter
The Journey Continues

(Originally published in Sojourn blog at www.sojournband.com)